Day 21... Finding the Silver Lining

Lately I have been attracting people who (with well meaning intentions) offer their unsolicited advice rather forcefully.

Since moving away from my home city 3 years ago, I haven't experienced much of that. I’m not used to that approach anymore and it kind of catches me off guard when it happens.
So far, I haven’t dealt with it really well. I mean, I didn’t lose my cool or anything :) But I did take offense to it internally and let it bother me for a couple of days in each case.

It occurred to me last night that I can feel appreciation for these experiences for the expansion they helped me to have. The expansion came from my desire to handle myself better in those kinds of situations. Also to attract different behavior from the people around me so that they don't feel the need to offer their advice without me asking.

Once I had that realization, I felt much better. I don’t have to be offended by anyone doing anything and I don’t have to take anyone's advice. I could listen to their ideas and take what I like and leave what I don't... and genuinely thank them for their help.

I'm not sure why I used to get upset when people were pushy or overbearing. It may have been because I thought I had to take their advice... or that I was annoyed that they thought they knew better for me than I do. Whatever the reason was, it doesn't exist anymore. I can now be conscious of it as it occurs and just know that no matter what they suggest, I can just smile and say thank you and do as I please regardless of what they think.

Is there anyone in your life that causes you to take offense and feel bad? Have you found this vibrational cleanup helpful in changing the relationship?